random bits and pieces

on being quiet

i'm generally not the quiet type. though sometimes i get quiet. i've never thought being quiet was necessarily bad, just that not being quiet generally makes people feel more comfortable. i can understand some reasons for being quiet: 1) there's just nothing to say - i.e. you don't care about this subject, you never will, and therefore don't see the point in commenting 2) you feel uncomfortable - you don't know these people, you're in a new situation, you don't particularly like these people 3) you're secretly talking in your head - you find what these people are saying to be so utterly ridiculous you're not going to comment, you're just going to tell yourself "OMG" over and over again 4) you could comment, you just chose not to - you want to be mysterious OR 5) some reason i can't come up with now.

the first four have all gone through my head; i figured i should leave a fifth one open for all those that i haven't covered. i don't pretend to be an expert in quiet. like i said, i'm not particularly quiet, get me started on almost any subject that i have a remote interest in and i will talk.

the reason i bring this up is that "being quiet" has come up a lot in conversation lately so i figured i'd write about it. yes i know ironic. i just figured i should publish my thoughts. they're there just dying to get out. lots of people i know are quiet. i like talking to quiet people. generally, if you get them in private they have tons to say. quiet can be creepy, and sometimes i get frustrated too, but i figure if these people want to talk they will so i will try to leave them be. either that or i'll just tickle them. that seems to work too :)

(btw - I think the myers-briggs says i'm an ESTJ)